Moms are Solutionary Revolutionaries By Barbara Stachowski

Barbara Stachowski

Moms are Solutionary Revolutionaries

By Barbara  Stachowski

          Barbara Stachowski is a Weed &Seed site organizer in Hamtramck, Michigan.  She is also a connector to the Hmong community.

 A couple of weeks ago Myrtle Thompson of Feedom Freedom Growers and I drove with Grace Boggs to Chicago for TNAR book signing events and radio interviews.

During the  4-5 hour  drive from Detroit Myrtle and I shared stories about raising our children. Grace didn’t say much.   But in her TNAR speech the next day at Hull House,  she  told a very responsive audience that Mom solutions are at the heart of the next American Revolution. What comes naturally to Moms in raising our children, she said, is an example of what all of us can be doing in our communities to make our country a force for good in the world.

          Visionary Buckminster Fuller once observed that  “Geniuses are just people who had good mothers.”

These geniuses are everywhere in our communities.

We/they  are the ones who can grow the souls of our children.

We/they are the ones who can provide them with the spiritually safe environments so that they can make the  choices which help them discover their talents,  passions and values.

We/they are the ones who  empower them  to go beyond being mere cogs in the capitalist system to  become creators of what Dr.  King called the beloved community.

We/they are the ones who nurture emotionally intelligent global citizens

We/they are the leaders we’ve been looking for.

Vandana Shiva, the internationally acclaimed physicist/feminist/activist, recalls  that at age 13  she asked her mother for a nylon dress so that she could keep up with her friends’ fashion trends. Her mother, who had supported Gandhi’s struggle against British colonialism and wore clothing of homespun cotton, replied,  “If that is what you want, you can have it. But remember, your nylon frock will help a rich man buy a bigger car while the cotton dress you wear will buy a poor family at least one meal.”

“Of course, I did not get the frock,”  Shiva recalls. “I kept thinking of some poor family starving because of my dress.  My mother had given me the information necessary for me to make a socially just decision  by thinking for myself and at the same time thinking of the global community.”

Loving our children unconditionally does not mean enabling them to act out self-serving behavior. We must commit to the consistency and constancy necessary to grow compassionate souls. We acknowledge our young people when they do well, but we are also  there for their mistakes and disappointments. We are there to say, “I love you. It’s okay. Let’s try again.”

This maternal labor of love is a lifelong struggle; the kind of protracted struggle that Hegel called “the labor, patience and suffering of the negative.” 

             Linda Wooten explains: “Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had, and dealing with fears you didn’t know existed.”

Moms are true bodhisattvas, nurturing without watching the clock, not  expecting compensation, not  putting our needs before the needs of those we compassionately love into authentic existence.

Our Mom skills seem so simple. Unconditional love, compassion, patience, and listening.  But having acquired these skills in raising my children, I find myself using them with the souls I encounter in my daily life and in my community organizing;  with  family members,  neighbors, comrades, mayors, chiefs of police, refugees and victims of violence. We all want and need to be nurtured.

          My Mom memories of holding my children when they were sick with fever bring home to me the fragility of our precious work.

During the drive Myrtle Thompson, my sister-mom, recalled  how fragile she felt during those early days of mothering her children. Embracing our own fragility is transformative because it reminds us of the wondrous girl-child inside ourselves that must be birthed along the way of revolution.  

            This  maternal instinct is not restricted to biological mothers. All women (and men) who nurture are modeling sustainable activism in the 21st century.